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Power of Expectation – High Five!

October 21st, 2011

What is the usual outcome when someone someone complements you on a job well done? When you accomplish something good? When you achieve something that you’ve been working on for a long period of time? When you even do something simple that keeps you focused on your goals?

Is it, “Oh, it was nothing.” or “Just doing my job.” or “It’s no big deal.” ? That’s what most do. Or they do nothing. They diminish their own success. They feel somewhat embarrassed and try and change the subject quickly.

How you handle successes, even small ones, are just as important as what you do with your failures.

Now there is no question that we learn best by infusing information via several mediums, visual, auditory, reading, and even physical, and by repeating them over a 28 day period, have the ability to reprogram ones thinking.

So try this out for 28 days. For each and every little success you have starting with getting out of bed, clench your fist, pull it, and say “YES!”. If there are others around, do a high five with them. Do a fist bump. Something physical that gives you a feeling of accomplishment, raises your attentiveness, and otherwise makes you feel good. Go ahead and try it right now. Don’t you feel better? Careful with belly bucking and head butts!

Another thing to do after having your mini-celebration is to tell yourself that you earned this, that you deserved this, because you were prepared. Take ownership of the success.

Then use that feeling to tell yourself that this is just the beginning. Your starting the day off right? Use this first success to launch your day, your week, your month, your life.

So if you make a call to someone with the goal of setting an appointment and you achieve those results, high five! Someone calls you and gives you a referral, high five! You close a deal, high five!

What happens is you will have a aura of expectation and will come to expect good things to happen. This will provide you energy beyond belief and others will feel this energy emanate from you. The world will as well. Going to the mall? Go to the front row, there will be a parking place waiting for you. Need to get a hold of someone? They will call you. Closing a sale? No problemo.

Your business can be great. Your marriage can be great. Your life can be great. High Five!

What’s Your One Thing?

November 8th, 2010

For the last month I’ve been immersing myself into the study of procrastination. What I’ve found is a combination of parts of right vs. left brain thinking, of rational vs. emotional thinking, of conscious vs. sub-conscious thinking, psychology, and a self discovery of what “The Thing” was in the movie, City Slickers.

Now I can’t really tell you what it is because it’s going to be different for everybody. What I can do is tell you that it will make you realize that you know what you don’t know. That is that you are being controlled by your subconscious that was conditioned in the past by things that happened in the past.

What I’ve found is that many of the habits you need to succeed in life and in business, persistence, confidence, discipline, integrity, empathy, character, curiosity, genuineness, and honesty, you are aware of in your everyday conscious thinking, may be at odds to what your subconscious tells you. Your sub-conscious has been conditioned by experiences you’ve learned over time, but most were learned when you were a child.

People act because of really only two things; it’s because either they like something, or because they don’t. We’re talking about the pleasure and pain dichotomy here. In a sense, we are like Pavloinian subjects and the first word everyone learns is “no”. We learn real fast what that means. We are told it starting when we are infants and it continues for as long as we let it. In some respects just about everyone is telling us what we can do and what we can’t. So when we decide to buck the trend and become an entrepreneur we are faced with people who say we can’t do that. It’s expected we get a “real” job and

May’s Facebook Friends of the Month

May 19th, 2010

Over on Facebook they give you the ability to choose between 6, 9, or 12 people to display in your Friends box on the left hand side of your Facebook page. You also have the ability to edit who you want in them as well. After getting the idea from Steve Hachey about 6 months ago I decided to not only show 6 people but to re-designate the box as Friends of the Month and have a blog post about them with a little bio about each. So without further ado, I present May’s Friends of the Month.

New Media Business Opps

December 23rd, 2009

Chris Brogan has a simple but powerful message to small business people, in this case a Realtor.

It is simple in that all he is saying is if I were a Realtor I would:

I’d write a blog about the location where I was selling.

I’d take tons of pictures and post them on the blog.

I’d shoot walking tour videos all the time with a Flip camera and post them.

I’d shoot interview videos with people from my community.

I’d host meetups and tweetups for local residents, inviting people who are house hunting.

I’d find various niche communities (developers, stonemasons, parents) and start community platforms for them on Ning.

I’d empower as many local businesses onto the Net as I could, and help them get successful.

I’d encourage as many people in my community to join Twitter as possible, and I’d bundle them into a list.

Great Advise Chris!

So if your reading this right now, if I were a gambling man, I would bet that you are also an entrepreneur or are contemplating being one. I’ll guess you also know about Facebook, Twitter, Blogging, and other Internet sites useful to business.

There is one thing I can almost guarantee, is there are local businesses that for one reason or another recognize that social media is viable for expansion of their businesses. In fact, it can be much much more effective than printed advertising. In some cases they may already have some type of local networking going on right now and all that would be required is to plug in the social media portion. But they may not know exactly how to implement it.

What I’m driving at is it could be YOU that shows your local businesses how to go about doing this. Show and teach them about attraction marketing. Show them that VALUE means a lot to people. Teach them that Personal Branding will separate them from their competition. Teach them how to blog, how to set up newsletters, how to tweet, how to set up a Business Fan page. You see if they already have an advertising budget, all you have to do is say, “How would you like to learn how to cut your advertising budget almost in half and eventually double your business.” Make sure you have a business plan to be able to present to them, make it a fair price, and you will get customers. You can make money on the training and coaching, on potential products related to internet business, and the business model will not be much different from business to business. So once you get it under your belt, it will be easy! So for 2010, what say you? How many businesses will you help?

Learn Without Memorizing

October 13th, 2009

Part of being an entrepreneur involves having to where many hats. If you’ve been studying using social media for your marketing there are a lot of things to remember. In the context of having to be as efficient as possible through daily habits, there are many things we have to remember that matter greatly. While no single task involved with it is extremely difficult, having to remember them all can be challenging, especially when literally the next day you may be teaching someone else what you just learned today.

With that I offer you a blog post called How to Learn Without Memorizing written by Scott Young on a Blog site called Think Simple Now. In it he describes a completely different system of learning by connecting ideas together. Scott describes this as creative learning.

What I’d like to advocate in this article is a more creative, spontaneous form of learning than the style you were probably coached for in school. Instead of repeatedly scanning the same information for minimal benefit, invest your time learning in creating connections with the information you are learning. Not only is it a more natural way to learn, it isn’t painfully boring like most memorization tasks are.

He goes on to describe many different strategies that you can implement as well. I find this kind of learning fascinating and will certainly delve more into it. I may even try and use it to try and explain some abstract technical information. Don’t be surprised if you find it in one of my later 101 traffic generation strategies in the near future.

Not only is this post interesting but the whole blog seems to be as well. Again it’s called Think Simple Now.

Have a remarkable day.

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About Chris

July 22nd, 2009

Thank you for taking the time to read about me. For that I am grateful. For those that already know me and those that don’t, I have had several ventures into the online world. I was first online 8 years ago with a political blog and about 2 years ago with a traffic and internet marketing blog. The political blog was a huge success and was really fun; for a while. It actually evolved my political views and now I feel there is no politician that can save us, nor should it be their role. The traffic and marketing blog started becoming to much like a job. I am a 25 year IT professional and a lot of what I was writing about was that. There are rewarding moments but I’ve decided to change where I spend my passion. I didn’t want to write about the profession.

While I’ve always been an advocate of personal development, over the last 3-4 months I’ve immersed myself with personal development, psychology, networking, and success. This has given me introspection into what makes me tick and I realized what I really enjoy when all is said, is people. It was people who I met and interacted with while writing on the other blogs that interested me. I am interested in what they do, what they like, what their challenges are, what drives them, and what their dreams and aspirations are.

I’ve also fairly recently become a 50 year old and have become more health conscious. I’ve always liked to participate in sports and exercise. At age of 40 I became a black-belt in Tae-Kwon-Do. But over the years due to life’s circumstances and health, have not trained in over 8 years. My weight steadily stole 4-5 pounds each year. I found it hard to control my weight. At the end of last spring I had enough. Now I’ve never been able to lose weight strictly because of diet. It also had to involve exercise. But I have health challenges with creaky knees and joints. Pain is the operative word here. So how was I going to exercise. This led me to studying about nutrition and the health-care industry in general. What I found is that in most cases the industry really is only a band-aid to cover symptoms. This eventually led me to the Health and Wellness company I currently spend my efforts and time with. I learned the science behind nutrition and started taking supplements. I now have lots of energy, no longer suffer with joint problems, have lost close to 60 pounds, and most importantly, get to spend time with and learn about people. People just like you and me.

While I still have an interest in traffic generation and the technical things dealing with software and the internet, I am no longer going to focus on it. I am now going to write about things I think that people will relate to. I’m going to write about personal and business development, life, work, living, diet and exercise, a myriad of how-tos, speckled with humor. It is my hope that I will be able to entertain and educate and pass on what I’ve learned over the last few years and through my experiences. I ask that if you enjoy what you read here to share it with others. Follow me while I transition from my left brain thinking to the right.

My Passion For Building My Business

July 7th, 2009

Johnathan Budd had a highly passionate post with a video and at the end we were asked to leave a comment:

I want you to LEAVE the BIGGEST reason you are building your business, spending your time learning new goals, researching how to succeed, and developing yourself into an entrepreneur.

This is how I responded.

I am driven. I am motivated. In that internet marketing is now a science, it is the creative aspects that I like. Creative aspects for me are the results from the originality of thought, the expression, the interaction, the learning, the teaching, and gaining satisfaction from accomplishment. The challenges make it much more fulfilling than any 9-5 job ever could. It’s like I am painting a masterpiece and I have to concentrate on the brush strokes on a small corner of the painting. As I work on the colors and learn how to mix the paint to achieve the exact real life colors and textures and then transfer them to the canvas, a picture of the future is emerging.

I of course will have to consult with others with whom I will associate to have them help and guide me and give me perspective to the process of finishing the painting. And it will be those relationships that I end up fostering that will determine whether my painting is a masterpiece. I can’t do it myself and when I do finish the painting, it will be because of those with whom I trusted and shared my passions. The success will be reciprocal as one of my passions is to help people understand and achieve things that they didn’t know they could archive or thought unattainable. My way is perfect only for me. But there are things I can offer that will help others and in return I will learn from others.

In the end, I want to be able to help people and kids in some of the eastern Europe countries that would make a typical U.S. minimum wage job seem like a muti 6 figure job here. Outside of the main cities there are families that live on $50 a month, don’t have a water heater, use outhouses still, and live the life our parents and grandparents lived in the 20′s and 30′s. There are orphanages whose conditions are deplorable at best, and run by corrupt governments and bureaucracies were little ends up directly benefiting the children. That’s my dream. to see the smile of some happy children who are the happiest they’ve been in their lives just because I bought them all some new shoes.


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