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The Language You Use

May 19th, 2011

The ability to receive what you desire is based on what you ask. To be effective in what you ask, you need to use the proper language. To connect, prospect, and generally open dialog with people, whether they be your spouse, family members, or prospects, you need to understand some basic fundamental concepts that will assist you to be effective in your communication. The number one concept is the language you use.

It is no accident that people end up walking through life settling for average results in many aspects of their lives. To understand the language that we use is paramount. So why do we say and use the words we do? Is there a connection between the words that we use and the results that acquire? Yes! Your words are your energetic expression of your thoughts, your feelings, and your beliefs. If you look around you will discover your reality you find yourself in is a physical manifestation of the energy you have received in return for those words you have spoken.

So there are some key words that you use that you could release right now today or at least become conscious of that you use in your everyday vocabulary, that you are using that DO NOT serve you to create the results that you seek and desire. They are what differentiate the difference between subsisting a life and designing a life that you desire.

So the words you use need to be in alignment with the results you desire to achieve the life you seek in the areas of finance, family, and your future. There are many words that we use that we’ve been conditioned to use because they are so predominate in our society. In fact, we are not even aware that we use them when we speak.

Key words to eliminate:
1. “Need” means that no matter how much of something you receive it will never be enough. And that belief will continually perpetuate the situations you find yourself in so as to always be true. Replace the word with deserve. No more saying you “need” more money, use “deserve”. The more you think you deserve, the more time you will be in a position to take advantage of opportunity, and thus you will receive more money.

2. “Try” is a word that has no commitment. It’s a word that means I’ll think about it. But in the end it means I’ll still be sitting on the couch. I’m not going to do anything that moves me forward. It’s akin to “wish”, “if only”, “I should”. The operative word to use is “will”. It emotes action. When asking something of someone if they use the word “try”, chances are they won’t do what is asked. When asking questions you are looking for decisive answers. Um, well, maybe won’t cut it. Anything less doesn’t not qualify for your emotional energy.

Start using language that is congruent to your message. People understand when their are being directly asked. They don’t have an out. They don’t perceive you as a walking contradiction. Understanding the language you use and being confident in your language will give you posture. It will also give you a clue as to where the person you are communicating with is at. Take time to understand the words you use, the words others say to you, and how you can use them to your advantage and you will be much further to the things you desire.

Discover How To Create Irresistible and Tempting Titles

September 25th, 2009

I had a few questions about titles this weekend. I’ll bring this old post out front and center once again in case you missed it.

titleWhat’s in a title?
How you title things make a tremendous impact on whether people will read or consider reading content. In this context, content is in the form of emails, blog posts, tweets, Ezine articles, and other forms of communication that you want others to read. In all cases the main goal is to get people to open, click, or otherwise save or bookmark for reading later. Let’s examine some of the forms of communication.

Email Subjects

The title is contained as what in email parlance as the subject. Subjects are treated a little bit differently based on who the email is coming from. The difference is based on one thing. That is trust. If the email is coming from someone they trust, friends and family for sure, they will open. But there is also information that was requested and comes in the form of newsletters, RSS feeds, and other aggregations of information. If someone doesn’t recognize the senders name they are typically going to look at the subject and make a determination as to what they are going to do. What the subject contains will determine the reader’s next actions. If it’s from you, you want to have as an inviting subject as possible.

Blog Post Titles
A blog post title works in the same way as a subject line in an email. Your objective is to get people to read your post. Hopefully, when your blog post is syndicated throughout the Internet via Twitter tweets, Facebook notes, blog backlinks, email bodies, and other forms of electronic communication it will compel people to open and read it. Another factor that has to be considered in blog post titles is the SEO factor. Your title should both contain a keyword or two and also be relevant to the content that is contained in it. If you have a title about cars, your content better not be about plants. I’ll talk about some of the psychological factors below.

Ezine Articles
Titles should work the same way as blog post titles but should probably have more of an emphasis on keywords than actions or questions contained in the title. Most people simply do not search Ezines. They use Google and Google recommends the Ezine articles to them. The more SEO friendly the title, the better the ranking and higher it’s possibility to be towards the top of the search. I also recommend your resource box contain a link to your blog.

Twitter Tweets
Now tweets per se don’t have the concept of a title but it should be contained some where in the 140 characters. Having important attention grabbing phrases that are contained in the actual article with the title in your tweets will help people feel compelled to click them and follow the link over to the source. Using certain psychological keywords will raise the probability of the tweet being opened. They will grab the attention of the readers.

In all these examples, if you understand underlying psychological impulses and urges you can use them to your advantage. So if we ask the question, what do people want?, what do people respond to?, what do people have an interest in?, and are people interested in?, this should provide us with some clues to help formulate a title. Here are some different types of titles that you should strive for?

Types of Titles

  1. Tell them something true about them and then tell them to take action.
  2. Create compelling curiosity.
  3. Make claims that are almost unbelievable.  (Be able to back them up)
  4. Create something of high interest to target direct interests.
  5. Use humor.  If you can make them laugh they will click.
  6. Inspire and motivate them.  If they feel good about themselves and they will act.
  7. Make them mysterious.  People like mysteries.
  8. Appeal to their logic.  Restate something they believe strongly.

So these are the categories or types of possible titles or subjects that can be used.  Now that we know what it is we need to formulate what words can we use that will compel people to act.  We need to use words that influence, persuade, and motivate people to act, (click, read, signup, etc…).  This can be accomplished by using words that can help people image something.  They are words that describe things in ways that make them bigger than life.  They are words that evoke emotion.  Here are some words that will practically compel people to their natural predispositions to investigate things that are curious, humorous, mysterious, logical, interesting, and bold.  This of course is not an exhaustible list.  They contain:

Words to Use

irresistible untold boggle double
triple quadruple unstoppable potent
banned phenomenal willing calculated
psychological seduce spell binding unable
magnet effortless insatiable secret
record-breaking amazing cutting edge incalculable
absolute thrilled legendary boost
enhance improve benefits enjoy
reduce release loosen combat
discover achieve counter increase
how-to discover master create
generate optimize enliven improve
advanced cultivate progress revamp
refine upgrade align balance
cheerful enthusiastic inclined zealous
attract allure induce invite
tempting follow substitute uncomplicated
simple agile knowing powerful
able clever straightforward intricate

Conclusion

The list could go on and on. Using these words in your titles and subjects along with a keyword will work wonders for your traffic. Take the time to craft titles that will draw people into your world, get them to click it, and then read it. Spend more time on this aspect of your writing and you will be guaranteed to see results.

What other words do you like to use?
What are some titles that you’ve used that have worked for you?

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